Miscarriage is common. Around one in four pregnancies ends this way, which means an enormous number of people are carrying this experience. Being common does not make it small. It only makes it quiet. If you have lost a pregnancy and found yourself grieving in ways you did not anticipate, or grieving longer than you feel entitled to, this is for you. Why this grief is so isolating Most bereavements come with social structure. There are rituals, gatherings, cards, time off. Pe

Yes. Completely, reliably normal. It is also one of the least discussed experiences there is, which is why so many people going through it assume they are handling things badly. They are not. Feeling lost is not a sign that the change was wrong. It is a sign that the change was significant. Why change unsettles us more than we expect We tend to underestimate how much of our stability comes from structure rather than from ourselves. Your routine, your role, the people you see

For a long time, trauma was understood as a problem of memory: something bad happened, and the person could not stop thinking about it. We now know it is considerably more far-reaching than that. Trauma changes how the nervous system operates. It affects the body, sleep, digestion, immune function, emotional regulation, relationships and the sense of self. Understanding this is genuinely useful, because it reframes a great many symptoms that people otherwise interpret as pers

Anxiety is often described as worrying, which considerably undersells it. Anxiety is a whole-body experience involving thoughts, emotions, physical sensations and behaviour, and for many people the physical side is the most confusing part. People regularly spend months investigating heart palpitations or digestive problems before anyone mentions anxiety as a possibility. This guide sets out what anxiety symptoms actually look like across all four areas. Emotional symptoms A s

Pregnancy loss is one of the loneliest griefs there is. The loss is enormous and the acknowledgement is often minimal. There may have been no funeral, no time off work, no cards through the door. People who loved you may not have known you were pregnant at all. And yet something real ended. Not only a pregnancy, but a future you had already begun to imagine. If you are reading this in the aftermath, or months or years later, please know that whatever you are feeling is not di

There is a particular kind of disorientation that arrives with major change. You may have chosen it. It may even be something you wanted. And yet you feel unmoored, tearful at odd moments, unable to concentrate, wondering why you are not coping better with something that looks, from the outside, like good news. This is a common reason people seek therapy, and it is one of the most productive. Transitions are unsettling precisely because they matter. Why change is harder than

Most people picture trauma as something dramatic and unmistakable: a serious accident, an assault, a natural disaster. Those things are traumatic. But a great deal of trauma is quieter than that, and it often goes unrecognised for years by the person carrying it. If you have found yourself wondering whether what happened to you "counts", that question itself is worth paying attention to. Below are some of the signs that trauma therapy might be useful, including several that p

Anxiety is one of the most common reasons people reach out for support, and also one of the most misunderstood. Many people arrive in therapy having spent years assuming that their racing thoughts, constant tension or sense of dread is simply part of who they are. It is not. Anxiety is a pattern, and patterns can shift. If you have been wondering whether therapy for anxiety is worth trying, this guide explains what it actually involves, what happens in a session, and what cha

Life is constantly changing. Some transitions are joyful and expected, while others can feel unsettling, confusing or painful. Even positive changes can bring uncertainty and emotional upheaval. Psychotherapy can provide support during these periods of transition, helping you navigate change with greater understanding and confidence. What Are Life Transitions? Life transitions can include: Starting or ending a relationship Marriage or divorce Becoming a parent Children leavin

Trauma can leave a lasting imprint on the mind and body. Even when difficult experiences are in the past, their effects can continue to shape how we feel, think and relate to others. Psychotherapy offers a compassionate and supportive space to process trauma and begin healing. What Is Trauma? Trauma is not defined solely by what happened to us, but by how our mind and body responded to the experience. Trauma can result from: Childhood neglect or emotional abuse Loss and berea

Anxiety can feel like living with a constant internal alarm system. Your mind races, your body feels tense, and even small decisions can become overwhelming. While occasional worry is a normal part of life, persistent anxiety can affect relationships, work, sleep and overall wellbeing. The good news is that anxiety is treatable, and psychotherapy can provide a safe and effective way to understand and manage it. What Is Anxiety? Anxiety is more than simply feeling stressed or

Finding the right psychotherapist in New York can feel overwhelming. New York City alone has tens of thousands licensed therapists, which means there is a near-endless supply of practitioners to select from. The key, however, isn’t just choosing someone qualified, but finding someone whose style, experience, and philosophy resonates with you personally. Here’s some suggestions for how to find the right therapist for you. 1. Look for a Therapist Who Adapts to You One of the bi

First in a multi-part series on the principles of Buddhist psychotherapy. Part 1 is on the concept of "the middle path."

Believe it or not, you have already experienced hypnosis. With New Yorkers, it happens on the subway. Have you ever been so focused on your phone or lost in your thoughts that you almost miss your stop (or actually do)? That is hypnosis: a state of mental absorption so heightened that you briefly stop paying attention to your surroundings. Daydreaming and movies are also examples. People who drive regularly might experience “highway hypnosis,” where they get lost in their tho