Therapy for Birth TraumaWhat Happened to You Mattered
If your birth felt frightening, overwhelming or out of your control, it can stay with you long after the day itself. Whether it was weeks or years ago, you can talk about it here, slowly and safely, only ever as much as you choose.
- Licensed therapist in NY & NM
- 15+ years’ experience
- Sessions from the comfort of home
A Birth Doesn't Have to Look Traumatic to Feel Traumatic
What matters is how it felt to you. You may have felt unsafe, unheard, rushed or powerless, or frightened for your baby. Those feelings are valid, whatever anyone else saw.
Afterward, you might notice flashbacks, nightmares, numbness, anger or a strong urge to avoid reminders. Some people grieve the birth they hoped for. Partners who witnessed a frightening birth can be affected too.
Therapy is not about making you relive it. We begin by helping you feel steadier, and then, gently and at your pace, we make sense of what happened and how it is affecting you now.
You are in control of what we talk about, and when.
Words I Often Hear, and What I Want You to Know
Whatever you are feeling, it is welcome here, just as it is.
I keep replaying the birth and I can't switch it off.
That is your mind trying to make sense of something overwhelming. We can help it settle, slowly and safely.
Everyone says I should just be grateful we're both okay.
You can be grateful and still be hurting. Both deserve to be heard.
I want another baby, but I'm terrified of giving birth.
That fear is so understandable. We can work through it together, so the next time feels different.
How We Can Work Through This Together
My approach is warm, down-to-earth and shaped entirely around you. I focus solely on reproductive and perinatal mental health, so you won’t need to explain the background.
Safety first, always
My clinical training is trauma-focused. We start by building steadiness, and you can pause or change direction whenever you need.
Gentle, body-aware care
Trauma is held in the body as well as the mind, so we notice physical responses with kindness, not pressure.
Looking ahead with support
If you are thinking about another baby, we can work on fear of birth and help you feel more able to speak up for yourself.
Reaching Out Can Feel Hard. I’ll Make It as Easy as I Can.
A free initial chat
A 15-minute phone call to share a little about what is happening, if you want to. You don’t need the right words, and there is no commitment.
Getting to know you
In our first sessions we go slowly, getting to know you and your story, and deciding together what would help most.
Support that fits your life
50-minute sessions by secure video from wherever you feel most at ease, shaped around what you need as things change.
Questions You Might Have
If you have a question that isn’t here, you are very welcome to ask it in your free chat.
How can therapy help after a traumatic birth?
Therapy offers a safe, confidential place to process the birth at your own pace, understand trauma responses and find ways to feel more grounded. You decide how much to share.
Can therapy help with fear of childbirth?
Yes. Whether the fear comes before a first birth or after a difficult one, therapy can help you understand it and approach the future with more support.
My birth was a long time ago. Can I still get help?
Yes, of course. Birth trauma doesn't have an expiration date. Many people reach out years later, often when memories resurface or they are thinking about another baby.
Is what I'm feeling "bad enough" for therapy?
If it is weighing on you, it matters. You do not need to be in crisis to deserve support, and many people find it helps to reach out before things feel unmanageable. If you are in crisis or feel unsafe, please call or text 988.
What if I don't know what to say?
That is completely okay. Many people start by saying exactly that. I will guide our conversation, and you only ever share what feels right.
How do sessions work?
Sessions are 50 minutes by secure, HIPAA-compliant video, so you can join from wherever you feel most at ease. You need to be located in New York or New Mexico at the time of each session.
Can meditation be part of our work together?
Yes, if it feels right for you. Simple meditation practices can help you notice and stay with difficult emotions between sessions, and many clients find they complement therapy well. You can read more about meditation.
What does a session cost?
Sessions are $250.
Do you accept insurance?
I am not in-network with insurance plans. For psychotherapy clients in New York and New Mexico, I can provide a superbill to submit to your insurer for possible out-of-network reimbursement.
How do I get started?
Send a short message to arrange a free 15-minute phone chat. We will talk a little about what brings you here, you can ask any questions, and then you can decide, with no pressure, whether to begin.
Experiences That Often Go Together
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For the exhaustion, worry, sadness or anger that can follow, and the shame that often comes with it.
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For worry, low mood or feeling unlike yourself at a time others expect to feel only happy.
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For finding your way back to yourself, alongside being a parent.
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When You’re Ready, I’m Here
You don’t have to have it all figured out, or even know what you need. A free 15-minute chat is simply a chance to be heard and see if we feel like a good fit.
Online therapy for clients located in New York and New Mexico.