Therapy for IVFSupport Through the Hope and Challenges of IVF
IVF asks so much of you, physically and emotionally. Whether you are preparing for a first cycle, deep in the two-week wait or coming to terms with a cycle that didn't work, you deserve somewhere to set it all down.
- Licensed therapist in NY & NM
- 15+ years’ experience
- Sessions from the comfort of home
So Much More Than a Medical Process
IVF can feel like a cycle of intense activity followed by long, anxious waiting. Medication, scans and calls can take over your days, while hope and fear rise and fall together.
For some people, the most difficult part of IVF isn't only the uncertainty of the outcome. It can also be the daily injections, repeated scans and blood tests, the constant appointments or the anxiety that comes with being in a clinical environment. If needles, procedures or medical settings leave you feeling tense, triggered or overwhelmed, or the ongoing monitoring is slowly wearing you down, that makes so much sense, and it is something we can work with together.
When a cycle doesn't work, the grief can be enormous, often with very little time to recover before the next decision. Even the most supportive friends may not fully understand why each result lands so hard.
Our sessions are a space apart from the clinic. Here the focus is simply you: how you are feeling, how you are coping and what you need at each stage.
You don't have to be positive all the time to get through this.
Words I Often Hear, and What I Want You to Know
Whatever you are feeling, it is welcome here, just as it is.
I can't think about anything except the two-week wait.
It is so understandable that it takes over. Together we can find ways to help you through the waiting, one day at a time.
I feel like my body keeps letting me down.
That is such a painful feeling. We can make space for it without letting it become the whole story.
I don't know if I can face another cycle.
You don't have to decide today. We can take time to grieve before thinking about what comes next.
How We Can Work Through This Together
My approach is warm, down-to-earth and shaped entirely around you. I focus solely on reproductive and perinatal mental health, so you won’t need to explain the background.
Support at every stage
Preparing, waiting and receiving results each bring different feelings. Our work adapts to wherever you are.
Support through the waiting
Where it helps, short grounding practices can bring a little steadiness to anxious thoughts during the hardest waits.
Space after results
Whatever a result brings, we make room for how you are feeling before you face any decisions.
Reaching Out Can Feel Hard. I’ll Make It as Easy as I Can.
A free initial chat
A 15-minute phone call to share a little about what is happening, if you want to. You don’t need the right words, and there is no commitment.
Getting to know you
In our first sessions we go slowly, getting to know you and your story, and deciding together what would help most.
Support that fits your life
50-minute sessions by secure video from wherever you feel most at ease, shaped around what you need as things change.
Questions You Might Have
If you have a question that isn’t here, you are very welcome to ask it in your free chat.
How can therapy help during IVF?
Therapy makes room for the emotional strain of IVF without asking you to think positively all the time. We can work with anxiety, waiting, fatigue and the pressure on your relationships.
Can therapy help after an unsuccessful IVF cycle?
Yes. An unsuccessful cycle can bring grief, anger, numbness and difficult questions. Therapy gives you space to process what happened before deciding anything.
Should I start therapy before I begin IVF?
Many people find it reassuring to have support in place before the most demanding stages. You are also very welcome to begin at any point during or after treatment.
Is what I'm feeling "bad enough" for therapy?
If it is weighing on you, it matters. You do not need to be in crisis to deserve support, and many people find it helps to reach out before things feel unmanageable. If you are in crisis or feel unsafe, please call or text 988.
What if I don't know what to say?
That is completely okay. Many people start by saying exactly that. I will guide our conversation, and you only ever share what feels right.
How do sessions work?
Sessions are 50 minutes by secure, HIPAA-compliant video, so you can join from wherever you feel most at ease. You need to be located in New York or New Mexico at the time of each session.
Can meditation be part of our work together?
Yes, if it feels right for you. Simple meditation practices can help you notice and stay with difficult emotions between sessions, and many clients find they complement therapy well. You can read more about meditation.
What does a session cost?
Sessions are $250.
Do you accept insurance?
I am not in-network with insurance plans. For psychotherapy clients in New York and New Mexico, I can provide a superbill to submit to your insurer for possible out-of-network reimbursement.
How do I get started?
Send a short message to arrange a free 15-minute phone chat. We will talk a little about what brings you here, you can ask any questions, and then you can decide, with no pressure, whether to begin.
Experiences That Often Go Together
Infertility
For the quiet grief of each month, the decisions, and the futures you are still hoping for.
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For worry, low mood or feeling unlike yourself at a time others expect to feel only happy.
Learn more Miscarriage and stillbirthPregnancy Loss
For miscarriage, stillbirth, recurrent loss and the fragile hope of pregnancy after loss.
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When You’re Ready, I’m Here
You don’t have to have it all figured out, or even know what you need. A free 15-minute chat is simply a chance to be heard and see if we feel like a good fit.
Online therapy for clients located in New York and New Mexico.