Therapy for InfertilityWhen the Family You Hoped For Feels So Far Away
Month after month of hoping and waiting can wear you down in ways others may not see. Here you don't have to stay positive or explain why it hurts so much. I offer specialized support for every part of the infertility journey.
- Licensed therapist in NY & NM
- 15+ years’ experience
- Sessions from the comfort of home
A Grief That Often Goes Unseen
Infertility touches so much more than conceiving. It can change how you feel about your body, your relationships, your plans and even who you are. Life can start to revolve around cycles and appointments while the world keeps sharing happy news.
It is a grief for something that hasn't happened yet, with no clear ending and few ways to mark it. And because it so often lives alongside hope, it can be exhausting to carry and hard to explain to anyone else.
As things change, you may face decisions about further treatment, donor conception, other paths to parenthood or a future without children. We can think these through together, without rushing.
Whether you're struggling to conceive without pursuing treatment, considering your options or already navigating fertility treatment, therapy can provide space to explore the emotions, decisions and uncertainty that may come with infertility. Not everyone wants or is able to pursue treatment, and that choice can bring its own quiet grief. If you are still deciding, the not knowing can feel heavy. And if you are in the middle of treatment, the appointments, waiting and hope can fill so much of your life. Wherever you are, your experience belongs here.
You don't have to stay hopeful for anyone else in this room.
Words I Often Hear, and What I Want You to Know
Whatever you are feeling, it is welcome here, just as it is.
Everyone keeps telling me to just relax.
Well-meant advice can feel so isolating. Here, you can say how hard it really is.
I'm happy for my friends, but I can't be around them right now.
Both of those can be true. Protecting yourself is not selfish, it is a way of caring for yourself.
I don't know how much longer I can keep doing this.
That is a heavy place to be. We can look at what you need, at your own pace, with no pressure to decide.
How We Can Work Through This Together
My approach is warm, down-to-earth and shaped entirely around you. I focus solely on reproductive and perinatal mental health, so you won’t need to explain the background.
Honoring every loss
Each negative test, cancelled cycle and imagined future is a real loss. We give them the weight they deserve, even when others don't.
Decisions without pressure
When the next step is unclear, we can slow things down and explore your values, limits and fears, separate from the medical timetable.
Caring for your relationships
We can work on how you talk about infertility, what you share and how to protect your heart in painful situations.
Reaching Out Can Feel Hard. I’ll Make It as Easy as I Can.
A free initial chat
A 15-minute phone call to share a little about what is happening, if you want to. You don’t need the right words, and there is no commitment.
Getting to know you
In our first sessions we go slowly, getting to know you and your story, and deciding together what would help most.
Support that fits your life
50-minute sessions by secure video from wherever you feel most at ease, shaped around what you need as things change.
Questions You Might Have
If you have a question that isn’t here, you are very welcome to ask it in your free chat.
How can therapy help with infertility?
Therapy gives you a confidential place to talk honestly about the grief, anger, uncertainty and strain of infertility, without needing to stay hopeful for anyone else.
Can I come to therapy if I am no longer pursuing treatment?
Yes, absolutely. You may be taking a break, deciding whether to continue, exploring other paths to parenthood or beginning to imagine a future without children. All of it is welcome.
Do you work with couples going through infertility together?
Please mention this when you get in touch, and we can talk through what kind of support would feel right during your free chat.
Is what I'm feeling "bad enough" for therapy?
If it is weighing on you, it matters. You do not need to be in crisis to deserve support, and many people find it helps to reach out before things feel unmanageable. If you are in crisis or feel unsafe, please call or text 988.
What if I don't know what to say?
That is completely okay. Many people start by saying exactly that. I will guide our conversation, and you only ever share what feels right.
How do sessions work?
Sessions are 50 minutes by secure, HIPAA-compliant video, so you can join from wherever you feel most at ease. You need to be located in New York or New Mexico at the time of each session.
Can meditation be part of our work together?
Yes, if it feels right for you. Simple meditation practices can help you notice and stay with difficult emotions between sessions, and many clients find they complement therapy well. You can read more about meditation.
What does a session cost?
Sessions are $250.
Do you accept insurance?
I am not in-network with insurance plans. For psychotherapy clients in New York and New Mexico, I can provide a superbill to submit to your insurer for possible out-of-network reimbursement.
How do I get started?
Send a short message to arrange a free 15-minute phone chat. We will talk a little about what brings you here, you can ask any questions, and then you can decide, with no pressure, whether to begin.
Experiences That Often Go Together
IVF
For the long waits, the hope and fear at every stage, and the cycles that don't work out.
Learn more Miscarriage and stillbirthPregnancy Loss
For miscarriage, stillbirth, recurrent loss and the fragile hope of pregnancy after loss.
Learn more Life as a parentMotherhood & Identity
For finding your way back to yourself, alongside being a parent.
Learn moreMore ways I can help: PregnancyBirth TraumaPostpartumMeditation
When You’re Ready, I’m Here
You don’t have to have it all figured out, or even know what you need. A free 15-minute chat is simply a chance to be heard and see if we feel like a good fit.
Online therapy for clients located in New York and New Mexico.